Kids ask a lot of questions. Sometimes without words. Sometimes answering those questions comes down to two words. Yes or No. I think, sometimes, parenting can come down to two types… Yes parents or No parents.
The world is new to kids. They are learning so much every day. One of the things they are learning is will you help them learn or will you not. What do I mean? I mean, sometimes, what they want to do or try gets answered by what we 1) want to do with them, 2) are willing to clean up or 3) are willing to go slow on.
I think our goal as parents (and I say OUR because I need to work on this myself) is to say yes WAY more often then we say no.
I have a friend, when her seven year old son wanted to shave like Dad, found a way for him to do it so he wouldn’t cut himself. She was a yes mom! Another, saw a snow cone maker in the store. She brought it home and let her kids make snow cones. In the house. Her son called it the best day ever.
Yesterday, we were yes parents… we even got the ball rolling! My DH thought we needed an Art Day… so I got up, drove to buy some finger paints, paper and breakfast. He and the kids took some mats from the play room to the back yard. One child drew, and three painted.
Then, suddenly, it went from finger painting to body painting. And we let it. And we laughed with them. A lot. All morning.
Yes is such a positive word. I know there are times that call for a no. I just want those to be the only time I use it. I don’t want to us no because I’m “too tired” to mess with it. I want my kids to have lots of fun times to remember. And maybe a cold shower to clean up!
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Beth- I couldn’t agree more! What a wonderful reminder that I needed to hear! (or read) My “no’s” are often because I’ve let life get too busy or I’m just too exhausted to deal w it…But our kids only have One childhood…and I wish I could get a do-over many times of my own. I want my kids to look back and say…”hey that time mom let us go have ice cream for dinner…best day ever!” Thanks again for the reminder!