Chicken Soup Thoughts

I once had a conversation in college with a student who wanted to be rebellious just for the sake of being able to know what it’s like to have one of “those testimonies”… you know the kind… that really dramatic story of how you were doing all this junk and God reached in and pulled you out of the mire…

I got to thinking about that conversation today, while cutting some chicken… see I have four sick (yes, I said 4!) babies… I thought about how at the time of the conversation I really didn’t have a good way of helping her understand what she was asking for… how that’s not a good way to think about what she has… today, the thought crossed my mind that I now have a picture to paint for her…

If I was sitting at her table with our cups of coffee (tea, soda, whatever) I would talk to her about those beautiful babies she has… how she likes to watch them sleep (they are SOOOO sweet then!)… how she works so hard to protect them from the bumps and bruises of learning to walk… how she painstakingly teaches them the proper way to ask for the things they want… of the joy she receives being able to provide those wants.

Then I would ask her to think about the first time they got a cold. Oh, the longing to help that child feel better… the wanting to take that illness from them. Or the first heartbreak they will have… Don’t you want to do whatever you can to keep them from dealing with that pain? What about that first bike ride… how much would you like to keep the scars from their little bodies.

You have to know God feels each one of these feelings, only much more so… When you are rebellious there is pain and scarring God wishes you never had… and what joy if you struggle through life NOT rebelling. That’s like seeing your baby healthy and happy!

VIP Votes

Very Important People Know Who They Are… a very important person from my high school years and I used to say that to each other. It became our slogan… our mantra of sorts. It got started because someone else we (she) knew didn’t celebrate birthdays… it wasn’t important to mark the moment you came into this world… and we thought otherwise.

As a parent of four, I still feel it is very important. There is life, and life changing going on in that moment and it’s worth celebrating. And I don’t mean just the first one, either… each one of these babies has changed my life in a dramatic, beautiful and God granted manner.

Each one of these children, as they hit the milestones they are expected to in their growth, have helped me hit moments of growth of my own. I don’t feel like I will be 38 in a few hours (well… ok, so some days I feel more like 83, but that’s another blog). Sometimes I feel like I’m an eight year old stumbling in the dark, clueless in the steps I am expected to make. Then I see those eight beautiful blue eyes looking up at me… and suddenly I can change the world.

The reality is I know The One who can and I will do everything in my power to reach Him for their sake. They are a gift from Him, I will give back to Him. And it’s so incredibly exciting to hear someone on the political stage speak in the same thought patterns. Life, no matter how small, is worth celebrating.

And for the second time in my life, I will be voting for a V(I)P, rather than a President.

Beauty of words

Seems nearly every day I need a reminder of the power in words. There is a resadue left from everything we say. This morning I have seen it in a small conversation from several weeks ago.

I believe we had the kids out late a couple nights in a row. I said something to S about looking tired. The boys went a step farther, “yeah, she does look tired.”

“Yeah, she has beanbags under her eyes,” said G.

This morning S was talking about my mom and looking at me, “You have pink lips like Grandma.”

“So do you,” I told her.

“Where?” I pointed to them. “Oh. Do I have beanbags under my eyes?”

My three year old remembered what her brothers said several weeks ago. She remembered it being an undesirable idea. I must remember what I say and how I say it are two very important concepts.

You Know You Are A Parent…

When you find yourself in a public restroom thinking “I don’t have to tell anyone ‘stop messing with the door’!” And you are thrilled by the thought…

Yes YOU are a parent, and don’t have much time alone! I had just such a thought tonight… and had to shake my head in wonder… how did I get to the point I was EXCITED to walk into a public restroom and not have to worry about someone opening the door before I was ready. I’ll tell you how… I have been through three toddlers and their incessant questioning, “Can I open it now? Can I now? Now? NOW???”

Thanks Chris and Dave!

I just read Chris‘ blog and I, too, (as I guess Chris and Dave did) feel like EVERYONE needs to see this… imagine what we could do if we all had this kind of passion about the work at our hands…

I hope you find make the time (20 minutes) to watch this video of Benjamin Zander. He will light a fire in you. Now I’m off to make sure the lights in my children’s eyes are shining.

Baby Talk

So I’m walking through the grocery store today because we DESPERATELY needed me to. (G has asked me every morning for the last week for his “Pop Tarets” to which I have had to tell him we don’t have any… not the answer he wanted to hear.)

Not only did I go today… I went without any children!!! Yea for me. (I know how sad that sounds… when did it be come a thrill to go to the store??? When you can go and not have to tell someone NOT to touch that, then you will understand.)

And I’m walking, looking at the fruit and on over to the cereal. While I am looking at Cheerios I suddenly realized something I did not want to know…

I found myself actually talking out loud… OUT LOUD!!!! I was having a conversation with… MYSELF. Ugh… I have had a non-talking child in the cart so long I don’t even think about talking out loud and not having someone answer… so sad… I have now become the crazy woman you don’t want to be around…

Maybe taking K would have been a good idea…

School Entitlement

I read a blog last night that I both understand, and yet am very frustrated by. A single mom was ranting about the supplies she had to buy for her kids to go back to school, including things like paper towel. Her point… she didn’t have to provide things like that to her job, why should she have to supply them to the school?

OK, so I understand how maddening it is to have to pay, and pay, and pay and then be asked for more money to support our kids getting an education. I mean, I have four… think of all the hand sanitizer I will be buying!

However, I also understand this: I want my taxes to be low. I am not asking my neighbors who are in their 80s to buy the supplies my kids need for their education. However, this is what school tax does. It asks the community to help pay for my kids, and any other kids in the area, to learn.

This mother also wanted to know why the school didn’t provide this stuff… so I told her.. the problem is School Entitlement. There are people who feel, for whatever reason, this world owes them not only SOMETHING, but EVERYTHING.

I also understand the people down the street who did not come into this country by the proper means do not have the same ideals as I do. They want to break into my house, eat my food, take my medicine, use my water and expect me to pay for it all. This is what all of these government programs are doing. These programs to allow illegal alien’s to get a FREE (yes, they don’t buy the same supplies I do) education, eat a FREE lunch and get FREE medical care, are NOT FREE at all… I pay for them. This working, single mom who is having trouble buying her kids supplies must FIRST buy the supplies of people who don’t belong in this country and who are not trying to become part of this country.

Yes, I told her this… too bad the comment erred out.

Migraines and other headaches

I have learned something about my family history I had no idea of… and it took a lot to get here…

I am going to assume you don’t know all the details surrounding K’s birth… for that matter, I probably don’t know them all… I mean I was under the influence of a lot of drugs… don’t worry though, I wasn’t driving!

The short version is this: after having my fourth c-section, while in recovery, I started to hemorrhage… not a fun deal. It took 5 hours, and the blood loss was major… any more and I would have HAD to have a transfusion. As it was, I was able to push through and begin the slow march to rebuilding my supply. While in the hospital, I began to see a funny pattern every where I looked. When I asked the nurse she said, “Oh, you are having a migraine… you need to rest.”

Wow… 37 years and I’d never had one. Fast forward almost 9 months, and suddenly I’ve had 3 in nine months. What is going on?

While talking to my Mom about it, she tells me my great-grandmother got them… as did my great-aunt… oh, and my uncle.. WHAT??? There’s a family history I had no idea about. I talked to my grandmother and found out that my cousin has them, too… big fun.

When I talked to the dr. office, I was told it probably has to do with the drop in my progesterone level during my monthly cycle… Why do I even know what that is??? Because they also think the five miscarriages I have had have to do with this lovely hormone.

Which means while I’m still nursing K, I have to just deal with it. OR I have to stop nursing her (which I don’t plan on doing until she’s a year).

Anyone have any better answers?

New Math?

I hope this one works better than the last video I tried to share…

If there is a problem, try this one: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EpGH02DtIws

So.. let me see if I understand this… he’s been to 57 states? He has one left to go? But he hasn’t been to Alaska or Hawaii??? Maybe J thinking AL was not part of the states wasn’t so bad…